tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post8616205217745355827..comments2023-10-31T06:03:06.285-07:00Comments on Pensievity: Because I'm totally rude/awesome like thisUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-70717160385479033902010-01-24T15:09:55.598-07:002010-01-24T15:09:55.598-07:00Great advice, and so well put!
One tiny caveat, h...Great advice, and so well put!<br /><br />One tiny caveat, having known couples in these kinds of situations: <br /><br />These points work only if BOTH parties are in it. That's especially true for #2. <br /><br />If only one person is selfless and sacrificing and the other is selfish, that will suck the marriage dry. No amount of sacrifice and selflessness on, say, the wife's part can fix a marriage where a husband refuses to sacrifice and contribute. <br /><br />For that matter, such behavior can be abusive. It certainly isn't a partnership, and a woman shouldn't have to feel like scum for the rest of her life because she's been long-suffering and must continue to be long-suffering forever because she married a jerk (and there is no emergency exit. Such a woman deserves an emergency exit).<br /><br />I've seen women blame themselves for the end of a marriage when they did their very best: they bent over backwards for him for years, but HE wouldn't sacrifice. He expected her to do all the work. So she sits around wondering, "Could I have sacrificed even more? Been even more selfless? What did I do wrong? What's wrong with me?"<br /><br />That said, assuming both spouses are committed and both trying (even if they aren't always seeing eye to eye--but both are at least making at honest effort), it'll work.<br /><br />Just had to say that. But I'm doing it anonymously because I'm a wimp like that. <br /><br />(Please know that I really, really admire you and agree with you. I just had to point out the other side!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-47577491378391634612010-01-21T21:49:07.808-07:002010-01-21T21:49:07.808-07:00I hope your friend read this post. You're so w...I hope your friend read this post. You're so wonderful and SO RIGHT about this.Harmonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14260111850169885961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-44150555915117032172010-01-21T15:45:31.952-07:002010-01-21T15:45:31.952-07:00Okay, so if you don't want to become RS presid...Okay, so if you don't want to become RS president....don't show your ward this blog posting! <br /><br /><br />p.s It's a beautiful post, thank youThe Priceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14355381238418755831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-65181372432609463832010-01-20T15:45:34.248-07:002010-01-20T15:45:34.248-07:00Best advice EVER!
I've thought about the Pr...Best advice EVER! <br />I've thought about the Pres Kimball quote many many times. <br /><br />Usually when I'm mad.Randihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11851220760568533019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-39748837666462467432010-01-19T22:47:33.577-07:002010-01-19T22:47:33.577-07:00Amen and Amen! I am book marking this post to re ...Amen and Amen! I am book marking this post to re read. I too do not believe in soul mates because there were several guys with whom I could have had a successful and loving marriage. I also remember that quote from President Kimball. To many people these days give up so easily. It's sad.Lisa Snoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-37142624091907054292010-01-19T21:04:53.037-07:002010-01-19T21:04:53.037-07:00I really love your thoughts, especially on the sec...I really love your thoughts, especially on the second point. The other two we hear often, but this one gave me some pause. I like how we need to love the other without change, but change ourselves to be better. Such an important concept.Lara Neveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08351324888724799014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-13901485463507896312010-01-19T19:30:29.965-07:002010-01-19T19:30:29.965-07:00YES! Glad you know it, glad you're sharing it....YES! Glad you know it, glad you're sharing it. <br />My ring is a trillion cut (triangle) to remind me God is part of our marriage--you've probably heard the analogy before: with God at the top, as long as you and your husband strive to become closer to God, you will become closer to each other (make sense?). <br />You were taught well! :) Makes me so happy.<br />PS: you're a darling pregnant woman!Qaithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07090577030703367345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-60682685067840232062010-01-19T16:32:07.712-07:002010-01-19T16:32:07.712-07:00Amen!
It took seven years of marriage before I ca...Amen!<br /><br />It took seven years of marriage before I came anywhere close to figuring any of that out. And now? Happier than we ever have been. I'm glad it took awhile though. Life now is so much sweeter for having gone through some of the bitter (i.e. years of being silly and immature and selfish).Kimberly Vanderhorsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01653757517652257445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-18934910360797345302010-01-19T15:58:02.751-07:002010-01-19T15:58:02.751-07:00"Loving the other without the change, but cha..."Loving the other without the change, but changing yourself because you love the other."<br /><br />I think I'm going to get this in vinyl on my bedroom wall.<br /><br />Fantastic, love. Should be a MMB guest post, if I do say so myself. And I do. :o)Wonder Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01286006629537084653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-27148665879682236122010-01-19T13:12:03.466-07:002010-01-19T13:12:03.466-07:00You wise woman, you! And I agree with Head Nurse ...You wise woman, you! And I agree with Head Nurse up there; I saw the same quote from Pres. Kimball and I really believe it. <br /><br />And you're firing on all synapses, clearly. How are you managing that while you're pregnant? My brain completely fell out 15 seconds after conception.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07532225334730948057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-27849373475717085782010-01-19T12:57:54.842-07:002010-01-19T12:57:54.842-07:00Wonderful comments. I whole-heartedly agree.
-Ka...Wonderful comments. I whole-heartedly agree.<br /><br />-KaraKara Herronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11973523287320946914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-6221545851187733502010-01-19T12:18:13.995-07:002010-01-19T12:18:13.995-07:00Well said. I would also add communicate. It seem...Well said. I would also add communicate. It seems so obvious to me and my husband but not to others. It is easier to just talk and get things out than to have things bottle up, explode, and things taken the wrong way when it didn't need to get to that point.<br /><br />and communicate with the Lord.The Lawlor'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00391358002372417023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-66858686297332297772010-01-19T11:57:16.343-07:002010-01-19T11:57:16.343-07:00Very well put. And for the record- I know at leas...Very well put. And for the record- I know at least President Kimball said that any two people living the gospel can make a marriage work-That was in our sunday school manual a couple of years ago when we studied his teachings, and there have probably been other prophets who say the same.Head Nurse or Patient- you be the judgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12188476280516873726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-65226510557325848032010-01-19T11:07:31.362-07:002010-01-19T11:07:31.362-07:00On Sunday I spoke in church about marriage. It...On Sunday I spoke in church about marriage. It's a tough topic for so many people, but I preached the ideal. And the audible gasp when I said I didn't believe in soulmates. Funny.<br /><br />BTW, I believe in soulmates AFTER the marriage.Kazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04411131948607000725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-29788411920749401152010-01-19T10:04:58.872-07:002010-01-19T10:04:58.872-07:00Great post...I just posted on marriage for my &quo...Great post...I just posted on marriage for my "30 Days For The Family (Proclamation)"...and I just had to link to this post, because you're awesome (and rude!) LOL<br /><br />http://beinglds.blogspot.com/2010/01/marriage-is-essential-to-his-eternal.htmlJocelyn Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10342635172904848811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-54028022577704100372010-01-19T09:52:34.415-07:002010-01-19T09:52:34.415-07:00I {great big squishy heart} this post.
You did fo...I {great big squishy heart} this post.<br /><br />You did forget the 4th thing. Little things make all the difference. If its flowers 'just because' or emptying the dishwasher without being asked, or heck cleaning up after a sick child before the other person tries to go to the bathroom and steps/sits in it. Those things make a happy difference.rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02366992997140067774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-73156706335045998532010-01-19T09:23:25.030-07:002010-01-19T09:23:25.030-07:00changing yourself because you love the other... LO...changing yourself because you love the other... LOVE this point. Great post, and great advice.Jenny P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16632739365854048008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-41516415211879697382010-01-19T09:12:00.921-07:002010-01-19T09:12:00.921-07:00Yep, yep, and yep.Yep, yep, and yep.Kristina P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16144488639100871226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2973923536525380696.post-81897542712228281232010-01-19T08:59:27.697-07:002010-01-19T08:59:27.697-07:00Well said.Well said.Brookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06567226067848241071noreply@blogger.com