When I open a can of worms, it's usually because I'm genuinely interested in others' opinions - not because I like tension and heat and open disdain.
Alright, so today's discussion is on sleepovers.
Do you or don't you?
I have to make my own declaration before I expect anyone else to make theirs: we don't.
My reasons are many. One of them is safety. You hear freaky scary stories every day about "trustworthy" people who turn out to be your worst nightmare. Many of them are family. (This boggles my mind. And depresses me to no end.)
Another is this: every questionable experience of my youth took place at a sleepover. Same with My Man. Our parents would be horrified to know the things that happened at innocent girlie pajama parties. (Dear Mom - no, I'm not telling you, so don't ask.) I just tried googling an image for 'sleepovers,' and was appalled. I think you get the drift. Hint - don't google an image for sleepovers....
It's really sad. Because I had some great sleepovers, too. Friendships were deepened and lifelong love and devotion proclaimed. The majority of my sleepovers were entirely innocent and fun-filled.
My Man and I have had many discussions about this topic. Because I know darn well that I can't shield my children from every single evil influence - and in fact, I shouldn't. They need opposition to test their strength and prove what they've learned.
... On the other hand, I'm not going to blatantly display the world two inches in front of their little noses. While I can't protect them from the influence of alcohol forever, I'm not going to take them to bars.
In short, I will do all I can to keep them from situations I know to be contrary to our values.
Question is - do sleepovers fall under that definition?
For my husband and I, we decided that the bad outweighs the good. We will be happy to let our sons go to sleepovers until midnight or so, and then we will pick them up. Sleep, they will not.
I'm well aware that they will probably be ridiculed. That we may offend some parents. But again - for us, we feel it is worth it.
I understand parents who don't feel the way we do, and I don't want to argue - my simple question is, what do you do?
(For basically all the same things I said, but better written and backed up, this is an excellent article on the subject.)